thepurposeofpain

Have you ever experienced pain? Of course you have! The story of our pain may be different but we all have the scars of a deep hurt as a reminder. You may have experienced heartbreak, trauma, emotional or mental pain, loss of a loved one, or the pain of disappointment. In this life we are all guaranteed to go through pain and trials. So, if we all go through pain, is there a purpose behind it? Whats the purpose of pain? How does God use the bad and the ugly? Can He even use it to grow us? I believe He can and will. I believe our deepest pain launches us into our greatest calling.

Romans 8:28 says, “And we know [with great confidence] that God [who is deeply concerned about us] causes all things to work together [as a plan] for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.” (AMP)

Im sure there are parts of your story you would never think God could redeem or bring good from.

I know for me, there have been some things I have gone through that I hated with a passion and I didn’t see how God could us it (at least not in the moment).

I had no idea why God allowed me to go through something so terrible and traumatizing. Honestly, there was a period of time where I was angry at God and I had hard questions that weren’t being answered.

What do you do when your offended by the only being who can sustain you through something so awful? You stay.
 What do you do when your offended by the only being who can sustain you through something so awful? You stay. No matter how offended you are by the unanswered questions and the pain, you stay close to the God of all comfort. You force yourself to CHOOSE to believe God will bring you our of your painful situation and heal you.

During my season of affliction (I will write my testimony in a later post) God spoke to me in a dream that He was allowing those who I had previously relied on for help to be at a distance. I couldn’t use them to lean on, I had to go through this season just the Lord and I.

It was one of the most painful times in my life but it forced me to rely on God as my only source of wisdom and comfort. It began to produce a strength in me and had I not gone through that, I would not have been able to attain it otherwise.

Thats when God started to teach me that the pain He allows us to go though, actually becomes the thing that increases our strength, faith, resilience and perserverence.

Because I chose not to run from God when I was afflicted, He revealed Himself to me in a more intimate way then I had ever experienced before.

What is the purpose of pain?

Expanding on what I just wrote, here are a few ways I’ve seen purpose in pain:

  1. To be made into a deliverer
  2. To grow my faith
  3. To purify me
  4. To grow in intimacy with God
  5. To share in Christ’s sufferings
  6. To mature as a saint
  7. To minister to those who have been through the same thing
  8. To understand God’s goodness and love even in the midst of trial
  9. To exercise the ability to overcome
  10. To bring glory to God
  11. To produce His desired will and destiny for my life

Many who are touched with pain in their life recoil from God, wondering if they did something wrong or they allow themselves to question God’s goodness. What if in the midst of experiencing pain it wasn’t the result of something you did and it wasn’t because God isn’t good?

What if it was to produce a specific purpose in you personally and for the body of Christ?
 What if it was to produce a specific purpose in you personally and for the body of Christ? Look at these 4 scriptures, do you see a connection between pain and its purpose for you personally and those around you?

More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Romans 5:3-5

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. James 1:2-4

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort. 2 Corinthians 1:3-7

Now I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake, and in my flesh I am filling up what is lacking in Christ’s afflictions for the sake of his body, that is, the church. Colossians 1:24

Wow! Point, blank, period, there is purpose in our suffering for us personally and those around us.

What you suffer through produces things in yourself that are not attained any other way. When you process through pain WELL (thats key, you have to submit to God and walk through pain well to get out of it what He intends for you) you produce an endurance that teaches you how to stand your ground and not give up.

You also produce character. The word used here in the greek is dokime,which means “the process of proving” or “approved character though affliction”.

And finally, it produces hope. The greek word for hope is elpis, which means to have a “joyful and confident hope” or “that in which one confides and flees to for rescue”. You begin to produce a hope in Christ, knowing He is to one we can run to in confidence.

Its fascinating how pain, the thing we go to great lengths to avoid, can do so much good for us.
Its fascinating how pain, the thing we go to great lengths to avoid, can do so much good for us.

Pain also produces a purpose to serve others.

In the earlier verse, 2 Corinthians 1:3-7, we see that God gives us comfort in our pain and from that comfort we are to give it to others who may be suffering around us as well.

This is the concept I am really after in this post. How does our own personal pain translate into a launching pad for our greatest calling? 

How does our own personally pain translate into a launching pad for our greatest calling?

Well, I would bet that what God has ultimately called you to is not about you (Sorry to burst you bubble). Its not about the career you are creating or the great talent you have. Its about being used for the Kingdom of God to reach those who desperately need the love of Christ.

This world is writhing in pain. Just open your Facebook, I know you have noticed. People need to see that in the midst of their pain there is a God who loves them and wants to give them a relationship with Him through Jesus Christ.

So how does your personal pain translate into a launching pad for your greatest calling? You allow ourselves to be vulnerable and share your own story of pain. You share it with the reality of how God met you in the midst and delivered you. Its about allowing God to use your story. The pain is not the end of your story, its the beginning of a beautiful testimony that is redeemed by God.

Sometimes what you suffer though isn’t even for you. Its to give you an authority to minister to others going through the same thing.

Sometimes what you suffer though isn’t even for you. Its to give you an authority to minister to others going through the same thing.

I hear you, some of you may be thinking, “you don’t know what i have had to go through”. “You don’t know how much I’ve hurt”.

I get that, i really really do.

But when we stop at the pain and don’t allow ourselves to push through to find healing and  purpose in ministering to others, we become victims.

See, when you go through pain you may feel like a victim but you don’t have to be. Victim mentality is a choice. You have the choice to stand firm on the Word of God and in His power. 

When you can do that, you start to step out of your pain and into your greatest purpose.

One day you realize how God used that pain to strengthen you, to teach you about Himself, to show you how to persevere, and to ultimately give you authority over that pain.

When we walk out of pain and into our greatest calling, that is when God gives us authority to minister to others who have or are going through the same things we experienced.

I love this concept of authority. When someone is an authority, you assume they have power.

Lets say, if you overcame anxiety you would have more authority to help someone else overcome then someone who has never dealt with it. Its like that in the spirit real as well. When you overcome a stronghold or certain battle, God gives you a greater authority in pray against that issue, you have greater authority to speak against the spirit thats behind it and see it flee from someones life.

Does this makes sense? Everything we go through has a purpose and it produces an overcoming authority to walk into your greatest calling, which is delivering others out of bondage.

I feel it important to say, before we experience pain we need to be filled up with the truth of God’s Word and the understanding of how He uses pain. Pain will bring out what is already in us. Let the Word be the thing that comes out.

Love, your pain does not define you. Christ and the overcoming spirit He has given you does. Make that pain work for you and the people around you.

I hope this was helpful. I encourage you to read and meditate on the scriptures I listed in this post, that way when you experience pain you will have the truth of God’s word richly at work in you!

Tell me in the comments, how has your pain opened up a door to minister to others? How has God moved in your life through pain? What have you learned from it?

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22 Comments on The Purpose of Pain: Our Deepest Pain Launches Us Into Our Greatest Calling

  1. Alexandra Yeboah
    February 3, 2017 at 7:57 pm (8 months ago)

    Alyssa, thank you so much for sharing the words the Lord impressed upon your heart. I am so grateful that I was able to read this. A lot of things went horribly wrong during the last year, and I really fought to understand what God’s purpose is in all of this. By God’s grace, I am seeking Him more during this trying time. So this post was much needed for me. Thanks again and may the Lord bless you as you continue to minister for His glory.

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 5, 2017 at 7:35 pm (8 months ago)

      Alexandra! Im so glad that God encouraged you through this post. Im so sorry to hear things have been difficult as of late but I am also so thankful that God is sustaining you. Its hard when our questions aren’t being answered in the way we need in the moment but I know that everything you are going through will serve a purpose (Romans 8:28). Thank you so much for your prayer request, i feel honored to come alongside you and intercede for you!

      Alyssa

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  2. Ayanna
    February 7, 2017 at 3:01 pm (8 months ago)

    This was so beautifully written and so true. My husband and I have realized hat a lot of we have gone through individually and as a couple has been to help us grow and minister to others. Both with health challenges and money challenges, God has used what could have broken us as our platforms form for ministry.

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:32 pm (7 months ago)

      Hey Ayanna! So thankful of you and your husbands testimony! Being recently married, there are definitely hardships but learning to allow God to redeem those things is so important! Im encouraged that you both have allowed God to use you to minister to others who have or will go through the same thing!

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  3. Kelsie
    February 7, 2017 at 6:28 pm (8 months ago)

    I love this truth and the way that God speaks to us and calls to us in the midst of our pain! Beautiful post.

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:33 pm (7 months ago)

      Thank you for reading Kelsie! It really is a beautiful truth!

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  4. Mamaguru
    February 8, 2017 at 8:11 am (8 months ago)

    Glennon Doyle Merton wrote something elegant about this in Love Warrior. Crisis mean to sift, so during a painful time you sift through your life and are left only holding what can never be taken away, love, faith…. Your post reminded me of that.

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:34 pm (7 months ago)

      Wow, thats a beautiful image, thanks for sharing that! Pain really does sift out the things that are shakable, leaving us with the unshakable!

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  5. Emily Susanne
    February 8, 2017 at 12:10 pm (8 months ago)

    Such a great reminder! God cares more about our character than keeping us comfortable. We grow through the hard times and can use them to draw near to Jesus. He alone can turn our pain into a purpose.

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:36 pm (7 months ago)

      If thats not the truth i don’t know what is! He is all about our character and attitude! Thanks for commenting Emily!

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  6. Lisa
    February 8, 2017 at 12:15 pm (8 months ago)

    Wow! Not only is this post amazing… and truth, your website is gorgeous! Would love to know if you designed it yourself and on what theme or format. Absolutely beautiful.
    I too have been through much of what you’ve written about, although likely different worlds. Thank you for your honest heart.

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:40 pm (7 months ago)

      Lisa, thank you for reading! And thank you for your sweet comment about my website! I didnt design it myself (wish i could do that lol) i actually bought it from bluchic. They have a bunch of feminine themes that are very pretty and function very well.

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  7. April Boyer
    February 8, 2017 at 12:20 pm (8 months ago)

    God blesses the blesser. This was a very thoughtful post, well-outlined and loving. After my cancer, I wrote a blog, that became a support group, that became a book. Illness set me back further, and gave me a chance to build a new blog that is more finely tuned. God is not done with me yet! I was much encouraged by those who loved me and mentored me. Now I return this love and continue by giving recycled cards to nursing home shut ins. God knows how to use us in so many ways. Enjoyed the post. thanks.

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:44 pm (7 months ago)

      You are so right, God is definitely not done with you yet! Thank you so much for sharing your testimony with me! Though i hate the things you had to go through, im so thankful for the people who you have helped and ministered to! What is the name of your book? i would love to know! Thankful for your service to those in nursing homes, that is a precious ministry.

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  8. Natalie @ Milk & Honey Faith
    February 9, 2017 at 11:13 am (8 months ago)

    You have such a lovely blog and I’m so glad I found you! I’m now folllowing all of your Social Media acts lol. What a remarkable post about God’s refining power in pain. I certainly don’t care for the process but the results are worth it. All of it results in closeness with Him if we let it. I’d love it if you’d join me in a Facebook Group for Christian Bloggers called “By His Grace Bloggers”. I think you’ll really enjoy it 🙂

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:47 pm (7 months ago)

      Hey Natalie! I think im following you on your social media too and im newly apart of the Facebook group! Thank you for the invite! The process is something i would love to skip as well lol but you are so right, it is well worth it!

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  9. Katherine
    February 9, 2017 at 3:00 pm (8 months ago)

    Pain definitely reminds us of our humanity and is sometimes therapeutic in a wider healing. Great read, thanks 🙂

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:49 pm (7 months ago)

      Yes, sometimes we have to go through pain to find healing. Its like a broken arm that healed wrong, it needs to be re broken to be set right. Thanks for commenting!

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  10. Meghan
    February 10, 2017 at 1:25 pm (7 months ago)

    Thank you for sharing this post. Pain and suffering does bring us closer to God. It humbles us and allows us to grow and try to show more empathy towards others.

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 10, 2017 at 5:50 pm (7 months ago)

      It really does cause us to become less selfish and show more empathy then we would have otherwise. Thanks for commenting!

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  11. Oluyemisi Vese
    February 20, 2017 at 12:39 pm (7 months ago)

    God sent you to me with these words. I’m just coming out on the other side of my pain and God has been placing it on my heart to share but it’s so very hard. Thank you for these words. I’m going to follow you on all platforms, I need more wisdom from you!

    Thank you

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    • Alyssa (Admin)
      February 26, 2017 at 9:28 pm (7 months ago)

      Oluyemisi, Im so thankful these words were able to minister to you. Im also thankful you are on the other side of your pain. I understand what it feels like to go through pain and be hesitant to share what you went through but i just want to encourage you to share what the Lord is leading you to. Guarantee you there are many women who will be blessed by your testimony. Thanking God for you and your process and that you have held on even during pain! Cant wait to hear your story!

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